Ready is Relative

“Great people do things before they’re ready”. Simple quote, but yesterday morning, during my daily wake-up ritual of opening up social media (don’t judge me), it was the first one I saw, and it hit me hard. It ended up shaping not only the course of my day, but it also impacted my interactions. Maybe there was something in the air, but a lot of my friends and colleagues seemed to have awakened with a restless motivation. You see, the status quo didn’t, and doesn’t seem to working anymore, and being just to be is no longer good enough. So many people expressed that they were living, but aren’t actually alive. The realization that there is more to life hit them just like that quote did for me. Are you feeling it too? Because here’s the thing: that restlessness is a clear sign that you are ready and in need of a change, and that change is imminent.

Train Tracks

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Maybe you work in corporate America, and you spend the majority of your days attending mindless meetings. You know, those meetings that aren’t held out of necessity, but more so because you had an empty spot in your calendar? And you end up spending those meetings daydreaming, unfulfilled, disenchanted, disillusioned, and disengaged. You find yourself starting to wonder what the point is, and whether there is truly more than what you wake up and do, day in and day out. You have ideas, you have dreams, but you don’t feel like it’s the right time to go after them. So instead, you sit in your meetings and push the daydreams out of your mind, because you know, security and responsibility and all of that. But of course, when you’re ready, then you’ll make the right move. However, at which point do you decide you’re ready?

Corporate Cat

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That’s the issue many struggle with. Everything has to be done at the “right time”. I’ve realized though, that the right time doesn’t really exist. Tomorrow isn’t promised, yet we constantly push everything to that day. Recently, a friend of mine who was jaded in her corporate role, decided to take a chance and follow her passion. She was afraid, even terrified at times, and she needed somewhat of a push. She definitely wasn’t ready, but she decided that not being ready wasn’t a good enough reason anymore. Don’t get me wrong; she does admit it can be difficult at times, but the most important part is that she’s happy, fulfilled, and feeling as if she’s being true to herself and her heart.

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If it scares you, yet thrills you…if it makes you want to curl up and hide away in a safe comfort zone, but the thought of NOT doing anything is more daunting, then chances are, it’s time for you to explore it. Maybe you can’t take the risk, maybe you’re afraid to jump, but if you take that approach, you’ll fail at it 100% of the time. Sometimes, the fear of trying is trumped by the fear of never knowing. Make today the day you try.


When Life Gives You Seeded Watermelon…

…just spit the seeds out and keep it moving. Man, it’s been a minute for a new post, and for good reason. So many transitions in my life right now, I can barely keep up. I’ve been up, I’ve been down, turned practically inside out like Penny from Pee-Wee’s Playhouse (I couldn’t find the inside out episode…if you haven’t seen it, I can’t help you). I’ve been spending the last few months re-learning who I am, what I stand for, and what I want out of life. And yo, this crap is not as easy as you would think. When you spend the last fourteen years of your life being defined as one thing, it takes some time to unravel and shed your old persona, your old ways. You have to re-think and re-define everything you assumed you knew (with certainty!) about life, people, love, relationships. And it feels just about impossible.


I think the most difficult part is removing old labels and behaviors that were so deeply embedded in your psyche, your every day life. Essentially, those habits that encompassed your reality for half of your life, gone. Understanding and accepting that you are, in actuality, your own person, with no restrictions, no labels, and now you have to begin rebuilding yourself. At first, it seemed daunting, which is almost laughable, considering how independent and self-assured I can be. But nothing is more stressful than the unknown, regardless of how confident you are!


So, in true Misfit fashion, I’ve begun to embrace it. Pain and change is temporary, and you can only allow yourself so much time to wallow in it. My friends have commented on my strength and perseverance, as if I’m superwoman. I’m not. Not even close. I’ve just come to the realization that I can’t necessarily control situations, but I can choose how I respond to them and how to overcome them. My strength comes from my will to ensure my happiness and peace, no matter what life throws at me. Most importantly, I’ve come to realize that I can do whatever the hell I want to do, how I want to do it, and when I want to do it. I accept these changes as my challenge to do just that. And lucky y’all…you’ll hear all about it.


Multi-Racial Misfit

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